http://www.pendrive.dofollowlinks.org Your Source for Social News and Networking Mon, 18 Oct 2021 08:50:31 +0000 en http://www.pendrive.dofollowlinks.org/News/are-you-afraid-of-success--2/ She is a senior leader within the tech industry and was being lined up for a promotion to a global role
"I am very excited" she said "It is like a dream come true!"
And then she paused....
"But I am scared" she said hesitantly "It is a huge responsibility. It is a big role"
She continued, "What happens if I do not succeed?"
The incumbent leader, whose position she was taking, had done an excellent job
And now, she was afraid whether she will be able to fill in those shoes or not
She was scared to step into her new power

"If I am not able to do justice to this new role, it will impact my credibility, my reputation and all the hard work I have put in over past so many years" she said
You see….
When we see successful leaders, we only see the success, the aura, the fame
But the truth is..
Success can sometimes be intimidating
Success can create all forms of fear and doubts
..Fear of failure
..Fear of what is on the other side, if you become successful
..Fear of not meeting the expectations of people around you
It can sometimes cause you to question your own self worth "Do I even deserve this?"
Success creates so many new challenges for you
And the more successful you are as a leader, the bigger challenges lie ahead of you
We are always talking about fear of failure
But we NEVER talk about fear of success
And these fears, these self-doubts can stop you from showing up powerfully as a leader
They can stop you from taking bold action and playing full out

Look....

Fear of success can be a good sign - it means that you are thinking BIG

But allowing that fear to move you into a state of inaction and indecisiveness is not healthy

And just a word of caution....

Fear of success and fear of failure can seem to similar in nature

But they are NOT

Both come from different places

Fear of failure assumes that you will fail in your endeavors

Fear of success, on the other hand, assumes that you will succeed, but you are afraid of what will happen after that ?

And interestingly, both can prevent you from taking action

So instead of fear of failure, I want you to go back and reflect :
Are you actually afraid of success ?
The answer may not be intuitive to you - you need to really think this through

Think about the biggest aspiration you have ahead of you - something big and bold

Then, reflect on what might happen if you are able to achieve it

You can complete these sentences

My biggest aspiration is___________________

It scares me because_____________________

I would be interested to know what came up for you as you read and reflected on this email
Do share your thoughts and feedback ]]> Mon, 18 Oct 2021 08:50:31 +0000 harshjohari News 1 http://www.pendrive.dofollowlinks.org/News/are-you-afraid-of-success--2/ http://www.pendrive.dofollowlinks.org/News/are-you-afraid-of-success-/ She is a senior leader within the tech industry and was being lined up for a promotion to a global role
"I am very excited" she said "It is like a dream come true!"
And then she paused....
"But I am scared" she said hesitantly "It is a huge responsibility. It is a big role"
She continued, "What happens if I do not succeed?"
The incumbent leader, whose position she was taking, had done an excellent job
And now, she was afraid whether she will be able to fill in those shoes or not
She was scared to step into her new power

"If I am not able to do justice to this new role, it will impact my credibility, my reputation and all the hard work I have put in over past so many years" she said
You see….
When we see successful leaders, we only see the success, the aura, the fame
But the truth is..
Success can sometimes be intimidating
Success can create all forms of fear and doubts
..Fear of failure
..Fear of what is on the other side, if you become successful
..Fear of not meeting the expectations of people around you
It can sometimes cause you to question your own self worth "Do I even deserve this?"
Success creates so many new challenges for you
And the more successful you are as a leader, the bigger challenges lie ahead of you
We are always talking about fear of failure
But we NEVER talk about fear of success
And these fears, these self-doubts can stop you from showing up powerfully as a leader
They can stop you from taking bold action and playing full out

Look....

Fear of success can be a good sign - it means that you are thinking BIG

But allowing that fear to move you into a state of inaction and indecisiveness is not healthy

And just a word of caution....

Fear of success and fear of failure can seem to similar in nature

But they are NOT

Both come from different places

Fear of failure assumes that you will fail in your endeavors

Fear of success, on the other hand, assumes that you will succeed, but you are afraid of what will happen after that ?

And interestingly, both can prevent you from taking action

So instead of fear of failure, I want you to go back and reflect :
Are you actually afraid of success ?
The answer may not be intuitive to you - you need to really think this through

Think about the biggest aspiration you have ahead of you - something big and bold

Then, reflect on what might happen if you are able to achieve it

You can complete these sentences

My biggest aspiration is___________________

It scares me because_____________________

I would be interested to know what came up for you as you read and reflected on this email
Do share your thoughts and feedback ]]> Mon, 18 Oct 2021 08:43:50 +0000 harshjohari News 1 http://www.pendrive.dofollowlinks.org/News/are-you-afraid-of-success-/ http://www.pendrive.dofollowlinks.org/News/how-to-receive-feedback-2/ Now this is usually the time of annual performance appraisals in most organizations and as such, these programs are in demand
However, what I do differently in these training sessions is that I actually start with a session on How to receive feedback
I feel that this is very important, as if you do not know how to receive feedback, you will not know how people feel and react, when you deliver feedback to your team members
So today, I want to talk about how you can get better in receiving feedback


1. First things first
Most people believe that feedback is positive or negative
But the truth is....
Feedback is simply, feedback. Nothing more, nothing less. It is neither positive, nor negative
It is information. It is data
It is an observation by a person about your behavior and performance.
How you perceive the feedback makes it positive or negative
For example, if someone tells you that you did not present well in a client meeting, that is how they perceived your presentation

They are simply telling you what they observed and how they felt about it



2. Whenever you are receiving feedback, make sure to listen with the true intent of listening and not with the intent to respond or react Remember that giving feedback to you is one of the core responsibilities of your manager. It is their job

More importantly, it is an opportunity for you to learn more about yourself and to grow


3. Feedback discussion is NOT about your manager. It is NOT about your peers
It is about YOU. Many a times, team members tend to bring in other variables during a feedback discussion
They start pointing fingers on how others are behaving and what others are doing/not doing
If you do so, then you lose focus from the discussion at hand


4. Now comes the most interesting part. When you receive feedback, you have three choices :

I call it the ARC Choice Framework
a) Accept it
b) Reject it

c) Contest it
]]> Sat, 16 Oct 2021 08:42:53 +0000 harshjohari News 1 http://www.pendrive.dofollowlinks.org/News/how-to-receive-feedback-2/ http://www.pendrive.dofollowlinks.org/News/how-to-receive-feedback/ Now this is usually the time of annual performance appraisals in most organizations and as such, these programs are in demand
However, what I do differently in these training sessions is that I actually start with a session on How to receive feedback
I feel that this is very important, as if you do not know how to receive feedback, you will not know how people feel and react, when you deliver feedback to your team members
So today, I want to talk about how you can get better in receiving feedback


1. First things first
Most people believe that feedback is positive or negative
But the truth is....
Feedback is simply, feedback. Nothing more, nothing less. It is neither positive, nor negative
It is information. It is data
It is an observation by a person about your behavior and performance.
How you perceive the feedback makes it positive or negative
For example, if someone tells you that you did not present well in a client meeting, that is how they perceived your presentation

They are simply telling you what they observed and how they felt about it ]]> Thu, 14 Oct 2021 07:53:04 +0000 harshjohari News 1 http://www.pendrive.dofollowlinks.org/News/how-to-receive-feedback/ http://www.pendrive.dofollowlinks.org/News/having-a-backup-plan-ruins-everything…-/
Some of you may recollect that 2009 was the midst of sub-prime mortgage crisis

Probably the biggest financial crisis the world had ever seen

Almost everyone, including my family, thought it was a foolish decision

Leaving a well-paying, well-settled job during the peak of an economic crisis

Was it a big risk ?

Yes, it was !

Was it scary ?

Hell YES ! It was scary and it was crazy !!

I was not even sure if I will even get a job

And on top of it, I had taken an education loan

While I left shipping, I had a choice to keep my Captain's license valid

That would have given me the cushion to go back to sailing on ships, had my new career not worked out

That would have been my ideal backup plan

But you know what I did ?

I let my Captain's license expire when I left sailing ]]> Wed, 13 Oct 2021 07:54:26 +0000 harshjohari News 1 http://www.pendrive.dofollowlinks.org/News/having-a-backup-plan-ruins-everything…-/